“I do not have time.” That is something all of us have said before. We are all guilty of claiming that we did not do something because of time. What exactly is time? It seems as if it is just an excuse that we use to give ourselves a pass. There are 24 hours in a day and 168 hours in a week. If we dedicate eight or more of that to a job every day, there is no reason we cannot invest in ourselves. Everyone always talks about investing in themselves financially. What is the point of doing that if mentally we are not happy? We all dream of things they want to accomplish. However, we use time as an excuse not to obtain the things that we want. One thing that does not care about time is death. None of us are invincible to it. No one wants to spend their last days regretting not being able to invest in what will ultimately make them happy.
Recently I had a friend of mine tell me that I am out here living my best life. I laughed at what she said but knew she was actually onto something. As a male that is in his last year of his early twenties, I decided that it is now time for me to be my best self. Throughout my adult life, I have lived based on everyone else terms. I did not understand what life truly meant. Now I am understanding that is it about me and what I like. It is about me being mentally and physically healthy so that I can live my best life. I am living my truth and voicing my opinions on my likes and dislikes. I am exploring who I am spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. I have learned that I can meditate and focus on aligning my chakras while being able to quote every word to a Boosie song. I do not have to fit in one box. I can be everything I want to be and more.
When you learn how to take control of your life, you can invest more time into it. Many of us have not been given a fair share of cards. I can say that the hand I received was shitty. However, I took those cards and I made them work for me. Instead of thinking of them as bad luck, I considered them building blocks. They have helped me to understand how I can take a bad situation and turn it into something that is going to work for me. You have the power to invest and change your life. Alice Walker has a quote that I think it so powerful. She said, “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.” Stop drowning yourself in doubt of what you cannot do, and realize that it is never too late. You can start working on everything you ever wanted today.
This weekend, I really learned the importance of time more than ever. As someone who works and is enrolled in school, I really did not think I had time to invest in myself. I did not even know how to start. However, I quickly realized the first part to starting is to actually start. This weekend, I decided to make that happen. I started with taking myself to dinner. I work very hard and felt that it was time to show myself some appreciation. I got dressed and took myself to Pappadeauxs. I enjoyed just being alone and eating an awesome dinner. After that, I went out and partied with some of my coworkers. Saturday, I stayed home all day and cooked for the entire week. One of the most important things to do when it comes to investing in yourself is making sure you are at your best physically. Therefore, I took the entire day to make sure I would not eat takeout, but instead eat good hearty meals for the week. As I mentioned before, it is very important to think about who and where you are eating from. Energy is transferred. If you are not careful, you may be eating from the hands of a negative person. Just think about it. You could be having a good day, and then all of a sudden your mood starts to change. As crazy as it sounds, it is very true.
In addition to cooking all of my meals, I decided that I needed to truly focus on my future. I decided to put my phone on “Do Not Disturb” and complete homework. In exactly two hours of uninteruptted time, I was able to complete almost an entire week of work. In a three credit hour class, you should be studying at least 6-9 hours a week. That means I was able to focus, and finish 6-9 hours of class time within one week. Our phones can be very distracting. However, we have to be the captain of our own ships and take control. I realized that there is nothing that anyone needs to discuss with me that cannot wait two hours. Even as I am writing this blog, I decided to take the time to invest in my something that I enjoy doing. I could be watching television right now or sleep. Instead, I am investing in something that gives me the ultimate joy in life, and that is writing.
Investing in you is so important. Living your best life is even more important. Stop worrying about how you are going to do it and just do it. Life is not going to just hand you what you want. You have to make it happen. Stop complaining about not having enough time if you have not tried to make time. It is very true that you make time for what is important to you. If you are not making time for yourself, then you are simply saying that you are not important. There is no excuse that can be given to make up for time you have not taken for yourself. Get started and keep going.